Hypocrisy – A Predictable Pattern

Haters who stalk us are predictable. Their techniques are so similar. It is as if they all study the same standardized instruction manual for proper techniques of hatred, as well as hypocrisy.

For example, they all engage in stalking of some sort, in order to find information they can use to either irrelevantly shame their victims, or modify for the same effect. If they find nothing of interest, they lie to create scandal regarding fictitious nefarious behavior. Yet, anyone who questions them about their own similar but real and observable behavior, they accuse of stalking.

Some of us, years ago, were pursued by haters who took photographs of us to post and ridicule online. When a few of us photographed those photographing us, we were accused of stalking. The difference with how such photographs were obtained is that they were pursuing or stalking us, but we were not pursuing them. We merely photographed what was in our surroundings.

Furthermore, while they falsely accused us of all sorts of bad behavior that they somehow never got pictures of, we merely posted their pictures with explanations that they were taking our pictures. We did not lie about their activity when sharing pictures of them online. Yet, they insisted that posting pictures of them (as they took pictures of us) was some sort of harassment.

Stalking and harassment; so what about bullying? Haters are experts. However, any victim who so much as questions the need or relevance of their bullying is promptly accused of bullying. It is such a reliable pattern. Haters accuse their victims of their own behavior.

Many years ago, one of our friends investigated this pattern of behavior beyond direct correlations of discussion on social media, and into other publicly available information. After noticing that a particularly vocal hater repeatedly ranted about how the homeless exploit the resources of social services, he found that she had been prosecuted for fraud of Workers’ Compensation.

A similar observation was made in regard to a hater who regularly ranted about how homeless people who can not afford to live here must move away. While her home was on the market, one of our friends who had briefly considered purchasing it, realized that it had been in pre-foreclosure for more than a year. This pattern is so reliable that it prompts its own investigation.

While on Facebook, a neighbor noticed one of the familiar haters accusing someone else of establishing a ‘GoFundMe’ account, in a rather demeaning manner, and for no particular reason. Of course, he was compelled to search ‘GoFundMe’, and too predictably found that the accusatory hater had established at least two accounts, and her young daughter had established another.

There is certainly nothing wrong with establishing a ‘GoFundMe’ account when necessary.

A few of us know that pre-foreclosure is nothing that anyone actually chooses to be engaged in.

Even a fraudulent claim of Workers’ Compensation funds is nothing to be judged too harshly. Mistakes happen. Workers’ Compensation claims adjusters do not always agree with physicians.

However, the predictable pattern of haters attempting to shame others for their own behavior is hypocritical.

Censorship

The First Amendment to the Constitution of the United States of America protects the freedom of expression. We can say what we want to say; and we can write what we want to write. Furthermore, we can share any of it with whomever we want to share it with. The First Amendment, however, does not guarantee means with which to do so. We are on our own for that.

This blog is one means by which I get to practice my freedom of expression. I get to write what I choose to write, and make it available to anyone who chooses to read it. I generally try limit topics by relevance. I always conform to my own discriminating standards. Those who dislike it need not read it.

Some who read what I write choose to comment on it, as a means to express their relevant concerns. Such comments are generally appreciated. However, a few have been too objectionable to remain associated with my blog, so were deleted without reply. Unfortunately, such censorship has become necessary to maintain the standard of civility.

This is not an open forum for anyone to write whatever they want to write. This is my blog; and I am not at all obligated to provide a venue for others practicing their freedom of expression. Threats, bullying, name calling and unfounded accusations will not be tolerated. Furthermore, comments that can be interpreted to be even slightly abusive are likely to be scrutinized.

‘Hater’, within the context of this blog, is a technical designation that describes those who engage in, among other things, the hateful tactics of threatening, bullying, unfounded accusing and name calling. Use of this technical designation is not name calling. Those who do not want to be designated as such should not behave as such.

NPD

Narcissistic Personality Disorder – NPD – is a chronic behavioral pattern that involves exaggeration of self-importance, strong desire for admiration, and lack of empathy. Those afflicted with it obsess over the achievement of success and power, and are notoriously exploitative of others. This is of course a very brief description of a very complicated disorder. A bit more information can be found at Wikipedia.

This may not seem to be relevant to many of us, but it does seem to explain some of the more typical behavior that distinguishes haters and collective hate groups. The symptoms associated with NPD are eerily consistent with their standardized craziness that is so very irrational to us, but seems to be quite appropriate to them. These are the main symptoms:

– grandiosity of self-importance.

– indulgence in fantasy that is consistent with delusions of grandeur.

– craving for constant admiration

– sense of entitlement

– shameless exploitation of others

– frequent demeaning, bullying and intimidation of others.

Assigning a name to the disorder certainly does not make the behavior that it causes any more tolerable. In fact, it is saddening to consider it to be a disorder that is doubtlessly more difficult for those afflicted with it than their victims. Nonetheless, it is impossible to deny how accurately this brief list of symptoms describes some of the behavior that we encounter with haters and hate groups.

Furthermore, it is odd to notice that haters often accuse us of exhibiting some of these same behaviors. We are regularly accused of ‘entitlement’ and ‘bullying’, but without any explanation of how we exhibit such behavior. Some might describe this technique as ‘psychological projection’. We are more likely to perceive it as more hypocritical bullying. Sadly, it is easy to not recognize it as mental illness.